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This was forwarded to me. Maybe it works. I really don't know. Please read. A Special Letter For Women Only...
“The Ten Most Dangerous
Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Men—
And What To Do About It...”
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of Their Dreams— And How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them... MISTAKE #1: Betting Your
Love Life On His “Potential” Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well.
Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day.
Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or years...
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper "connection".
Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at least a hundred times...
And because I've been this guy in the past myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.
I'm amazed the women put up with me.
But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I'd change.
The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the “potential” they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.
The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...
The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy for us both.
Talk about a losing battle.
It doesn't make a lot of “logical” sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.
MISTAKE #2: Assuming You
“Get” Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.
Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.
As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women.
And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and "intuition".
Women don't seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.
Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.
But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY woman can learn how...
MISTAKE #3: Pretending To
Be Something For A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an "easy" woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted to you means “playing to the man's fantasies” from the start, think again.
You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You
“Feel” Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single, successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from women.
Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything...
It's a woman who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the man that you're just like one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The
Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.
Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he's “emotionally available”
3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.
That's great news to women...
Men can't help it!
You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6: Relying On
Your Natural Ability To
Judge A Man's Character
People aren't easy to figure out.
Especially men.
The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people.
I've studied peoples behavior, “inner psychology” and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.
From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man.
They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other “indirect” displays of status.
VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at.
If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message.
Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.
You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7: Expecting A
Relationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.
And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says “Run!” to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.
Think, “controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!”
So let me be clear...
I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever.
But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her.
It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...
If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.
So what can you do as a woman?
You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more “natural” way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.
Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.
But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.
MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince”
Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious?
Right! They try to “convince” the man to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a man doesn't “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being “reasonable” with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this by the way.
They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.
When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing
What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...
And I don't mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.
And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.
I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me.
Over the last few years it's been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.
It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be successful with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.
I've read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that's going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I've been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.
It's been a very rewarding experience, and it's how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.
I've helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says “he's not ready”.
You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone.
I Now Have A FREE Email Newsletter...
But the really great news is... after several years, helping woman after woman, I now publish a free email newsletter that teaches any woman how to DRAMATICALLY increase her success with men and dating.
I'd like to invite you to sign up.
It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share you're email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself with no hassles. (And no, I'll never pull any of those tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junkmail when you try to remove yourself.)
Of course, it even get's better than that...
In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have an amazing downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES.
It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming your fears, meeting men, great ideas around first dates, cheat-proofing your relationships, and how to take things to a closer “emotional” and “physical” level smoothly and easily.
To sign up for my free newsletter AND download your copy of this online eBook, just go here:
Oh, I Almost Forgot...
In this day and age of “instant gratification”, I realize this might just sound like another late-night info-mercial promising to make you wealthy and retired by next week.
Well, that's not the case.
I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy studying, observing and understanding this area of life.
I wanted to design and create a book that ANY woman could easily understand.
Something you could start using IMMEDIATELY to meet, attract, date, and get close with a great guy.
I want to help you create an amazing relationship with the right man... without having to deal with all the wrong men, be “manipulated” or experience the pain and loss I've helped other women avoid.
I now believe that ANY woman can be more successful with men and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from women. They've taken what they've learned and found great guys and are growing meaningful relationships.
I know, I know... a book that can teach a regular girl how to be more successful in the dating world?
No way.
Well believe me, this will DRAMATICALLY increase your success, comfort and happiness when it comes to men, dating and relationships... I absolutely guarantee it 100%.
If you'd like to take your success with men and dating to the next level, and find how to create the foundation for the relationship that you've always wanted, then go here:
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
P.S. Do one of your girlfriends a favor and FORWARD this article to them. It might be one of the best gifts you ever give them - a “new lease” on their love life!
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I agree with these bits of advice.It's a life-saver for the female species. Read on:
What Women Should Know About Men If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".-- A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromis e is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships. ..there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. .. look for someone complimentary. ..not supplementary.
Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others Tags: dating, men
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Women should be wise regarding the menfolk. One should navigate the halls of the malls with ease, it should be the same for men.Hazel sent this to me. I agree wiith these words of wisdom.Read on:
Remember when Meredith Grey uttered the words, "Pick Me, Choose me, Love Me"?.
Indeed, she still has to learn lessons about love and men. Here are some thoughts. The Hard Lessons on Love and Men... 1. A man won't let go if he really loves you. Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell. 2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship. There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you. 3. Do not get hung up on your past. Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn't guard him enough or you didn't make him happy enough. 4. Do not look into images. How many times have you met a girl who didn't have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your "supposedly" perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you. 5. Always have your own set of rules. Set your limits on how far you'd go for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it's worth it. And it's worth it if the guy is treating you right. 6. Do not be scared to lose him. Don't be scared that he'll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up. 7. Avoid calling your guy. It's a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it's the guy who's calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it's a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable). 8. There is a guy who will value you. There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don't lose hope. Don't settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can. Also, do not believe him when he says it's just the way he really is. He's not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore. 9. Always be the only one, no matter what. Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can't get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can't leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress. 10. He must respect you. No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you. 11. If he fooled you, end it. Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person again. 12. Never start a relationship the wrong way. Do not steal another girl's man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life. 13. Do not force yourself into a relationship. Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn't come yet. Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc.. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet. 14. Do not settle. If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly. He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life. 15. A relationship has to have love. Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties. 16. Don't be afraid to be single. It's fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do not settle. 17. Be a good girl. Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled. 18. Love without limits. Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn't give your all, you get hurt for nothing. 19. You will get over him. Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love another. 20. Be the one. Act like you are the one. Don't be a nagger. Don't hinder his gimmicks. Don't give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don't be easy. Don't be like every other girl he had in his life.
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I just grabbed this from Jhanie. Dunno if she wrote this herself but I liked it.I saw a play once in Greenbelt. There was a line that goes like this --- The first one who says good bye is the victor. I agree. Saying goodbye requires a decision, still we determine who goes away, who stays but it also depends on them if they want to stay. I have to look it up but I've read a book by Morrison about saying goodbye and it was profound. It's one of my favorite books.Nelly Furtado's song sums it up All Good Things (Come to an End).Here goes The Art of Letting Go.
It's over. He’s gone.
Why do we have to part while
the love is still there?
Why do we have to suffer?
Why do we have to cry when
someone bids goodbye?
Why do beginnings have an end?
Why do we have to meet
only to lose in the end?There are questions left unanswered,
words left unsaid, letters left unread,
poems left undone, songs left unsung,
loved left unexpressed,
promises left unfulfilled.
In a relationship,
one of the hardest things to do
is saying goodbye and letting go.
It is as hard as breaking a crystal
because you'll never know when you
will be able to pick up the pieces again.
More often than not, they who go,
feel not the pain of parting:
it is they who stay behnd that suffer,
because they are left
with memories of love
that was meant to be,
a love that was.
At the beginning of and at the end
of a relationship,
we were embarrassed to find ourselves alone.
Unfair as it may seem,
but that's the way love goes.
That's the drama, the bittersweet
and the risk of falling in love.
After all, nothing is constant but change.
Everything will eventually come to it's end
without us knowing when,
without us knowing how,
without us knowing why.
And we must forget not because we have to
but because we have to.
In letting go, sorrows come
not a single spy but in batallion.
It seems that everywhere you go,
everything you do,
every song you hear,
every turn of your head,
every move of your body,
every beat of your heart,
every blink of your eye and every breath
you take always reminds you of him.
It's like a stab of a knife,
a torture in the night.
Funny how the whole world
becomes depopulated
when only one person is missing.
Just imagine,
there are a billion people on earth
and yet it seems you feel lonely
and empty without the other.
I dont know if it's worth calling an art,
but letting go entails
special skills sparkled
with a considerable space and time.
Time heals all wounds but it takes
a little push on out part.
Acceptance plays a part.
Not all love stories end with
"...and they lived happily ever after."
Sometimes we have to part because of
circumstances beyond our control.
We have to suffer if it would
mean happiness for others.
We have to cry to
temporarily let go of the pains.
Every beginning has its end
like every dawn has its dusk.
It's something we can't control,
something we had to live up.
It"s over.
H'es gone. But life has to go on.
Goodbye doesn't always mean forever.
There will be a place and time
where questions will be answered,
words will be spoken.
letters will be read,
poems will be recited in the night,
songs will be sung in harmony,
love will be expressed in solitude and
promises will be fulfilled.
Somewhere. Somehow. Someday.
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September 2, 2006
Roy,
Sometimes I miss you so bad.
Sometimes I don't care about you at all because you never seem to care for me at all. You don't write. You don't text much. You take me for granted so sometimes I take you for granted too.
I loved you so much more three years ago than I love you now. Love wanes when it's not appreciated, not reciprocated.
Sometimes I even wonder if I really love you at all. What are the signs of a person in love? I don't even fit the description. You don't fit the description either. If this isn't love, then what is it?
My days go on without you. Your days go on without me. We live apart, thousands of miles apart.
Sometimes I think of how you will perform in bed and if you will satisfy me.
Sometimes I think of how much I want to please you. Sometimes I want you to have the things I love and cherish. Sometimes I want you so bad.
Sometimes I hold conversations in my head with you.
Sometimes I think of you at night.
Sometimes I want to ignore you completely.
Sometimes I want you in my arms.
Sometimes I wish I could forget you. Sometimes I don't want anything to do with you.
Sometiimes I wish I could make love to you legally in the eyes of God and men.
Sometimes I get eaten up with jealousy over the other girls you e-mail.
Sometimes I wish you'd really tell me what you want from me.
Sometimes I don't want to think of you at all. I hope that would translate into days, weeks, decades, a lifetime.
Sometimes I think that if I give in to your demands, it would be the end of me, the erosion of my core, my soul.
Sometimes I forget you. Sometimes I wish it would be forever. But it isn't the case.
Some days pass by without me thinking of you. And if I do this, I think you do it too. You forget me. You forget me more successfully.
You say you love me but you have a funny way of showing it. You don't call. You don't text much. You don't e-mail me. I don't know where I am in the scheme of things. I don't know my place in your heart. But in my heart of hearts, I know the score. The signs are clear. I have read the writing on the wall.
Sometimes I wish I never met you. Then I wouldn't feel this pain.
This is the naked truth about me.
But sometimes even if I want to forget you I still feel affection for you. I wish I might, I wish I may but I could never forget you.
I wish you'd love me for keeps. for a lifetime. But that would only be a dream and I happen to live in reality.
Luna
Note Bene: This is the heartfelt letter I e-mailed Roy and the very letter which unearthed his duplicity. Eight months after I've wriiten this, I feel fine. Vindication! Authors of the book He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys solidified my gut feel about the matter.Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are great!
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Almira who was my boardmate in UP attests to the fact that I'm naughty. She avers that I only have to look at her with a decided twinkle in my eyes and she knows that I have naughty thoughts in mind. Do I agree.?Maybe.
I've always held the belief that people who talk about our baser urges don't get as much or hardly at all. If you have a shagging life you don't talk about it. You just do it.
So Almira and I talk about it which speaks of the dearth of shagging in our lives she being a good Catholic single gurl and me being a trying hard to be good Catholic single parent for 12 years now and counting. Three years ago I had a boyfriend and I wanted to get it on with him. I said I'll do it after four years before I do the deed. June of last year , I was burning. I really wanted to do it but circumstances proved benificial. He was too busy, he couldn't come over to Metro Manila. It was a LDR thing I had with him. God seems to be preserving me from myself and I'm grateful. It was November last year when I wrote a blog in my Friendster account that was sort of ambiguous. i learned that Roy had several girlfriends aside from moi! Damnation! Damn, damn, damn his cheating heart.
I told him in no uncertain terms that if he gets tired of me or has found another, all he has to do was tell me.
He said "Yes" glibly all the while cheating behind my sexy back.Hehe
How did I find out?
Simple.
I wrote him a heartfelt letter (which I'll post here one of these days) and instead of replying he sent me a forwarded e-mail entitled "Beautiful Woman" churva. He sent it to me and several other women.
I'm afraid I'm rather crafty myself. I took note off all the e-addies and befriended each one all the while pretending to be a man! To do that I became Jimmy Reyes with an e-mail addy to boot. Haha
A few innocuous but leading statements from me made me strike gold at the opportune time. I simply commented, " They say that the first person you send an e-mail to is said to be a significant person. Is this Roy your boyfriend? And she replied, Yes, he is my absentee boyfriend. We get to meet once in a blue moon." I had all the proof that I needed. I dumped him. No histrionics. I said "Saying "I love you"is not wrong per se but saying it to all of us is." I dumped him in a funny way come to think of it because of a racy way I worded it. I sent it to him and to Jolly who works in a call center. She told me that she went into a paroxysm of laughter that drove all thoughts of sleep away from her mind.
Roy made attempts to contact me. He texted me. He called me up. But I did not buckle from my high horse. He was mean.He told me before that I was the one who really showed him how much he was loved. But he did not value me.
But I think I am kinder than most. After a year, I think that I'd contact him again . Not for us to get back on track but just for friendship's sake. We had good times together after all. I watched Hulk, Spiderman 2, Mona Lisa's Smile and Pirates of the Carribean with him.
True he was a meanie but a meanie can still have friends. It's been 7 months already. In 5 month's time I could change my mind. That's what intentions are for. They can remain as intentions until they see the light of day.
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